The way I feel about my children is indescribable and I believe most parents feel that way. Being a mom of two under 2 is a challenge to say the least, but every single moment is worth it. Many times I have tried to put pen to paper, to write down how I feel about them, their milestones, the cute little looks they give, facial expressions which speak volumes and, with my toddler, the little bits of OCD that make me even more curios to see what she will blossom into… but, every time, I feel like every thing gets jumbled into a big mess of words.
It sound so cliché when I say the first few weeks after my youngest was born went by way to quickly I can not believe that she’s already two months old!
Here’s my advice on surviving for the first 6 weeks with two under 2.
- Don’t Panic – As with Hitchhikers’ Guide to the Galaxy, by Douglas Adams, I firmly believe every parenting book should have these words on the cover in large friendly letters. If you feel like things are falling apart, just take things 30 minutes at a time, soon it will all be better.
- Don’t be to proud to ask for help -Especially during the dreaded Witching hour, when you’re running between your toddler’s bedtime routine and a hungry or colicky baby.
- Try to take it easy – No one is going to judge you if there are still dishes in the sink, toys scattered throughout the house or if you haven’t had the energy to scrub your toddler’s latest “artwork” off the wall. Your body has been through a traumatic event getting baby into the world, give it some time to heal.
- Stick to the routine your toddler is used to, but be flexible - Children like structure, it’s easier for them to cope with a new addition to the family if their routine doesn’t change to much.
- Find activities that you can do with your toddler while sitting down – Nursing your youngest while you read to your toddler, or help her build a puzzle or blocks will help them get used to baby also being part of the fun.
- Get your toddler involved - If she’s old enough to help with little things like handing you the towel during bath time, or diapers and wipes while changing baby, let her help.
- Feed your body and stay hydrated– Make sure you get enough nutrients into your system so that it’s strong enough to cope. (Lifepak Nano)
- Take care of yourself – don’t forget that your needs are important too. Take some time for yourself. Even if it’s just 30 minutes from your day, ask some one to keep an eye on the kids, or take a break during nap time and do a bit of pampering.
- Don’t scoff the TV – I know it’s a bit of a parenting no-no in a lot of circles, but it saves your sanity, plus there are loads of educational videos on the market.
- Remember to enjoy it – The special moments, the quiet moments when everything feels perfect, the little smiles and the milestones, drink them in, before you know it they will have grown past this stage in their lives.